Looking at a Past Self





Spammers are persistent. Once I activated the anti spam filter for Mama Porter, notices started coming from an inactive blog site. I followed a link this morning and found this blog entry, commenting on a Facebook post that a friend shared. I still agree with much of what I wrote. Some comments are a bit, “Nobody’s going to tell me what to do.” In any event, it is like a time capsule, some things still have meaning and others are, ‘what was I thinking?’ I would like to think I am less contrary six years later, but I think I remain opinionated and attitudinal. See what you think.

Picky, Picky, Picky

Tips For A Better Life   They can call their list whatever they want

1. Take a 10-30 minute walk each day. And while you walk, smile.   A bit bossy for my taste. Maybe I won’t want to smile. Maybe I will want to grin. Maybe I’ll sing, hum or chant. I think deciding what you want to do while you walk is very personal.

2. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day. No real complaint here but I do think that starting out with a few minutes silence will be challenging enough for anyone just starting out and working up to 10 would be a goal for many.

3. Sleep for 7 hours. I would like to sleep for 10 hours each night because I really do enjoy my dreams and the more I sleep, the more I dream. As it is, I am forced to limit dream time and spend more time in “my happy place” while awake.

4. Live the 3 E’s- Energy, Enthusiasm and Empathy. I prefer the three C’s- Courage, Compassion and Coffee. Then there are the three R’s I have written about previously.

5. Play more games. How about “be more playful”? I like to spin or to try to skip stones or make mudpies but they are not games. Games bring out the nasty, competitive, win-at-any-cost side of me. That sounds fun, right??

6. Read more books than you did the previous year. I like that. Also, I would suggest to do more of whatever brings you joy than you did the previous year.

7. Make time to practice meditation, prayer and yoga. They provide us with fuel for our busy life. How about an “or” instead of the “and”. I think doing even one of these practices each day can replenish us.

8. Spend time with people over 70 and under the age of 6. There is a lot of wisdom in this. The more connections we can make, the better. I try to spend time with people who are not like me, just to find out how much we have in common.

9. Dream more while you are awake. I have a happy place. I spend a lot of time there.

10. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and less that is manufactured in plants. No argument there.

11. Drink plenty of water. Sounds good to me.

12. Try to make at least three people smile each day. I don’t even want to try to explain the crazyville scene in my head right now where I am “TRYING TO MAKE PEOPLE SMILE…GRRRR.” How about if I smile at many people each day and let them decide when they want to smile.

13. Don’t waste precious time on gossip. I will continue to reserve a few non-precious moments for cattiness. I own it. It can be fun and I make sure to acknowledge the bitchiness with a “reeeerrr” when I resort to it.

14. Forget past issues. Don’t remind a partner with his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present. These people are no fun at all. What is the good of having a memory if you don’t share it?? I bring up my own failings and laugh about them. I think any time you make an absolute, it is a mistake. I would not, most of the time, bring up anything from the past to really hurt someone. Acknowledging and admitting frailty creates intimacy.

15. Don’t have negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment. Is English the writer’s second language? You can’t tell me what kind of thoughts not to have. Maybe you meant to write “about” instead of “or”- that would make more sense. I would agree to stay in the moment, that happiness lies in the now.

16. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a price and dinner as a beggar. Trite, but it follows well researched advise. I would prefer to be more aware of my body as the physical vessel of my soul and treat it with consistent respect.

18. Smile and laugh more. Amen.

19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don’t hate others. What is with this don’t do this and that? If the feeling of hate comes up, that person is mirroring for you what it is you don’t like or don’t want to face in yourself. Feelings of annoyance and hate are invitations for self work. Of course, it is a lot easier to put in on someone else than to own it

20. Don’t take yourself too seriously. No one else does. That just sounds mean. I agree to not take myself seriously in that I am not the final word and authority, that I have a limited knowledge base. I think that most of the time, we don’t take ourselves seriously enough. Who follows all their intuitive feelings? How many times have you not respected yourself enough to say “No”, set boundaries, or pushed yourself to the point where hurting yourself is the only way you can stop doing something? Officiousness, no. Respect, yes.

21. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree. How about no one has to win any argument? How about we move from competition to cooperation where everyone has a point with a varying degree of merit? How about shifting from right and wrong to different?

22. Make peace with your past so it does not spoil your present. Agreed.

23. Don’t compare your life to others’. You have no idea what their journey is all about. Don’t compare your partner with others. Amen.

24. No one is in charge of your happiness except you. Hallelujah!

25. Forgive everyone everything. Including yourself for being human.

26. What other people think of you is none of your business. And you have absolutely no control over it. What they think about others has more to do with how they feel about themselves than with the others.

27. However good or bad a situation is, it will change. Everything changes. When can we get beyond the good-bad thing and simply accept that what is, is.

28. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch. I agree with the staying in touch part. I don’t know about the expectation of care-taking.

29. Get rid of anything that is not useful, beautiful or joyful. YES!

30. Envy is a waste of time. You already have everything you need. Agreed. And how about attracting something as good or better for yourself?

31. The best is yet to come. Excuse me? What about the mindfulness, living in the present stuff? Now is all any of us have. Now rocks, man.

32. No matter how you feel, get up get dressed and show up. Unless you are contagious. In that case, stay home. Alone. In bed.

33. Do the right thing. As best you can judge it in the moment, always strive to do the right thing.

34. Call your family often. Friends, too. Never let love or a compliment go unexpressed.

35. Your inner most is always happy. So be happy. I really don’t know what that means and I have the feeling if I read it over too many times, my head will explode.

36. Every day, give something good to others. Sure, okay. I am trying to not think about the old man giving candy to kids scenario… I think it is the English as a second language thing.

37. Don’t over do. Keep your limits. Sure.

38. Share this with someone you care about. I am not even going there. For now.
And so it is.   Karen

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